Jonathan McDowell: So, where did you two meet?
I get asked this a lot about people. Most recently when visiting the
Fat Cat with Simon
and his work mates this week, but often about the other
Simon (who's my business partner as well
as a long time friend).
The truth is a lot of the people I know I met first online, be it Fidonet
(hello Pads,
Peter,
Simon and several others), Usenet
(hello Ox.Net), mailing lists (hello
ALUG) or IRC (hello, er, lots of people). I don't
think I'm in any way unique here, but it can sometimes be awkward
explaining this to people who preconceive internet friendships to be something
seedy involving 40 year old fat man and 15 year old naive children. Or at
least that's what they seem to be thinking when you say "Oh, we met online".
Let's give some examples.
I met Simon on Fidonet, back when we were both 17 or so. We were in a
couple of echoes together and we did netmail a bit. When I came to
England for university one of the echoes we were in had a meet up and so
I decided to go. I ended up staying at Simon's (making his mother worry
a bit; even back in 1997 people thought meeting online was freaky!) and
that was the first time I met him. We've kept in good touch ever since
and even gone into business together. Is this a lot odder than a chance
meeting at a pub or through friends? I don't think so, but some people
do.
Or take when I moved to Norwich. I had some friends who could help me
load up the van in Harpenden (where I was moving from), but didn't know
anyone in Norwich to help unload. I'd already joined the ALUG list, so I
thought I'd ask there if anyone was prepared to help in exchange for
beer and food afterwards. Adam and
Edward Betts both turned up to help, not knowing
anything about me. And were very helpful and we got everything unloaded. I
still see Adam reasonably often, both online and in person (last night,
for example). I haven't really kept in touch with Edward since he left
UEA though. :(
There are many more examples like this of people who I see a reasonable
amount in real life and yet if you asked me I'd have to admit I first
knew online, sometimes for several years before actually physically
meeting. And lots of people understand it these days, but please tell me
I'm not alone in getting the funny looks sometimes. Please?


