Russ Allbery: On (not) drinking
Captain Awkward, which is still the best advice column on the Internet,
just posted an entry about someone being pestered to drink after saying that they don't drink. As
another one of those people who just don't drink, but not for any specific
reason that people seem to accept, I felt like blathering a bit more about
that. This is mostly about me rather than about the thread over there, so
I figured I'd do it on my own journal.
First, I completely agree with the response that it's no one else's
business why you do or don't drink, and people who persist in trying to
get you to drink (or do anything else, no matter how innocuous) after you
have clearly told them no are being rude and have forfeited the right to
further conversation. But it also really frustrates me to see that people
have to cope with that situation, particularly since I suspect it's
gendered. My personal experience (as a man, and one who has a fairly firm
way of expressing myself naturally) is that I say I don't drink and that's
the end of it. Occasionally someone will ask me why. I've never
had anyone pester me beyond that. I think the age of the letter writer
(22) has something to do with this, but I suspect gender sadly also has
something to do with this. People seem to be much more willing to tell
women what to do and not take no for an answer.
It's unbelievably rude when people do that. Don't do that. If you decide
you can pester someone about their personal choices because of their
gender (and, for that matter, their age, or any other reason), you deserve
to get your head handed to you on a plate.
Second, I wonder if some of the reason why I don't run into problems with
this is that I work on a college campus. The latter means that there's a
lot of surrounding culture around drinking and dealing with drinking, such
as the university policy that any party have EANABs (Equally Attractive
Non-Alcoholic Beverages) available as well. There's a bit of a cultural
understanding that pushing people into drinking isn't okay.
Third, since people do occasionally ask why I don't drink, or assume that
anyone who doesn't drink is doing so for religious reasons or because
they're an alcoholic, or might object to them drinking, here are a
few reasons why I don't drink. It may be useful information in case you
run into more people in the world like me.
- Due mostly to accident, and certainly not due to any specific effort on my part, I made it to late teenage years without ever having any significant amount of alcohol. That means I never developed a taste for it. (I didn't develop an aversion to it either; I just have no opinion on it. I've had just enough of it to know how it tastes, such as the occasional socially-indicated glass of wine, but not enough to form any opinions.) After that point, I figured since I'd not had it yet, there was no reason to start. Now, some years later, I already have more hobbies and things I enjoy than I have time and attention for, and I'm no longer at the point of my life where I'm actively seeking out new ones just because lots of other people enjoy them.
- If alcohol isn't going to be a hobby, and is just something else to drink, well, alcohol is expensive and generally fairly high-calorie. In general, I only drink things that have no calories because I like to drink a lot and I prefer to save my available calories for food (which I generally enjoy more). Why not save my money and spend the calories on something I know I enjoy?
- I really hate all of the physical symptoms (headache, nausea, unsteadiness, lack of emotional control, dizziness) one gets from overdrinking when I've gotten them via other means. I know that one doesn't necessarily get drunk when one drinks, and one can avoid getting that drunk even if one gets drunk, but given that I've never developed any taste for alcohol, why bother to start on something that I've seen lead to really nasty physical symptoms in lots and lots of my friends?
- I'm remarkably stubborn about things that I do that other people don't do. Show me cultural pressure contrary to something I'm currently doing, even if I'm only doing that thing by accident, and I tend to make it a point of pride for no other reason than I dislike pressure. (I probably subconsciously exude this, which is probably part of the reason why people don't argue with me.)
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